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Life Lessons From Judge Judy

JudgeJudy I recently had the opportunity to hear Judge Judy speak at a women’s event. I admit, I don’t watch The Judge Judy show which has been on air for 20 years, but I heard she is quite the character and a dynamic speaker, so I was eager to go. She did not disappoint. I left inspired from her life lessons.

Judith Sheindlin, otherwise known as Judge Judy, is a 72-year old fire cracker. A tough, honest, empowering woman who doesn’t take no for an answer. As I sat there listening to her, I thought  she couldn’t be more opposite of my mother.

As much as I adore my mother, I always wished for a stronger role model. My mom, a brainy beautiful pre-med student, dropped out of college when she met my father. Less than a decade later, Judy was one of the few women enrolled in her law school, yet believed she was just as good as any of her male competitors.

[Tweet “Find your passion, what you’re good at naturally, and find a way to make a living at it. ~ Judge Judy”]

I couldn’t help wondering what it would be like to have Judge Judy as a mother. No doubt, she would have given me her two cents on everything, as she says, tongue in cheek, she’s “always judging,” but comes from a place of honesty. But I imagine she would have been empowering, kicking me in the pants when I needed it and being a driving force in my life. I’m sure we would go toe to toe in some pretty nasty arguments, though living in a home where speaking up would be encouraged rather than discouraged and urged to be ladylike, sounds amazing.

Judge Judy shared since she thought she wasn’t conventionally beautiful, at least she would have brains, but was disappointed when an IQ text came back with average test results. Yet she didn’t let being “average” on paper change how she saw herself and limit what she would accomplish. When she says people may not like her, she says it’s not because she’s mean, it’s because she’s honest and is quick to add “You can be a tough broad and still be feminine, caring, and nice.”

[Tweet “Don’t let someone else tell you what you’re worth, don’t believe someone else’s vision of what you’re worth. ~ Judge Judy “]

She is author to several books, one of which is Beauty Fades, Dumb Is Forever: The Making of a Happy Woman, where she shares “Women,” she states with her trademark frankness, “need to wise up, stop subjugating who they are, and stop making stupid decisions in the name of love. They hide their talents and opinions so they won’t offend. They tiptoe through life letting others take credit for their ideas because they would rather be liked than respected. They spend their lives trying to please everyone but themselves, and then they wonder why they feel so frustrated and unfulfilled.”

For those of you who think over 50 is too late to start something new, The Judge Judy show debuted when she was just 52, and is still going strong. She attributes her success to tenacity, a passion for law, and a belief that she was just as good as anyone else. A belief that she admits sometimes gets her into trouble, but this fearlessness helped her succeed and become the woman who she is today. Her latest book is the inspiring What Would Judy Say: Be The Hero of Your Own Story.

 

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Filed Under: Get Inspired, Midlife musings, Parenting

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  1. UP says

    May 29, 2015 at 4:29 pm

    Judge Judy has a lot of wisdom and a lot of gumption!

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  2. Sheila Rogers says

    May 29, 2015 at 6:01 pm

    LOL! I’ve never watched Judge Judy either. I’ve seen her show a couple of times at my parents’ house. She is a ball of fire, and her story is inspiring.

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  3. Paul D. Brads says

    May 29, 2015 at 11:27 pm

    Judge Judy has a lot of wisdom and a lot of gumption!

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  4. Sandra Sallin says

    May 30, 2015 at 7:57 am

    So sorry I missed that event. I think I was recovering from something. :)) I’ve always admired her straight talking take no prisoners approach. I could use some of what she’s selling!

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  5. Lisa @ Grandma's Briefs says

    May 30, 2015 at 8:52 am

    Wouldn’t it be great if we all had mothers as strong as Judge Judy? Or were mothers that strong. I’ve never watched her show but this post confirms all the great things I’ve read about her. Thanks for sharing.

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  6. Carol Cassara says

    May 30, 2015 at 2:48 pm

    I like how she didn’t let labels define her. Average isn’t how her life turned out!

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  7. Marion ostrow says

    May 30, 2015 at 2:55 pm

    Once saw Judge Judy in a restaurant , serving her husband coffee. I thought she’s tough and feminine . Good qualities.

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  8. Janie Emaus says

    May 30, 2015 at 3:18 pm

    I always watch her at the gym! BTW, you turned out pretty good.

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  9. Heidi Sloss says

    June 1, 2015 at 8:39 am

    I don’t watch her show either, but it/she has become part of our culture’s lexicon. I think part of the fascination is that she is so direct, something for which our world usually punishes women. Didn’t know she had written female empowerment books, thanks for sharing.

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  10. Helene Cohen Bludman says

    June 1, 2015 at 11:35 pm

    My parents watch her show every single day. They love her!

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  11. RachRiot says

    June 2, 2015 at 12:16 am

    Also, Judy makes BANK!! I read somewhere she makes $47 million dollars. GO JUDY!

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  12. Kelly Caflisch-Arnoldussen says

    June 2, 2015 at 1:54 am

    love judge judy!

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  13. Elena Peters says

    June 12, 2015 at 9:35 pm

    I watch once in a while because she is so enigmatic. I love the way she calls every one out on their bullshit. And how inspiring that she started her career later in life. I have 2 years to start! Lol Thanks for linking to #MidLifeLuv

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  14. Vilma Sceusa says

    December 10, 2015 at 8:11 pm

    I don’t watch much TV but sometimes when I’m exhausted and flip channels if she’s on I watch. She is absolutely hysterical and I find her refreshing, although I’d be a little scared to have her as a mother. As a role model, she is great and I think her advice is spot on. Great article!

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